Friday, December 24, 2010

Winky D- Ms Tourism Harare Night Out

Me and Kaira at the Ms Tourism
I first heard of this Winky D character 4 months ago,when i visited Zimbabwe for the first time after being away for almost 2 years.

Tryna strike a pose before the show

I heard one of his tracks " Musarova Bigman" on the radio and it became apparent that this single was clearly "Song of the year". Believe me when i say,I not a Dancehall or Ragga fan but slowly I have become to enjoy this guys antics. His lyrics are well coordinated and make a lot of sense, unlike most Zim artists and he also includes gimmicks in his lyrics which makes his lyricss very funny. The one thing that makes him popular with people, is he is a straight talker, you know , the person who says what you have been thinking, but never get a chance to say it. He has been dubbed "The prophet" or 'Mutumwa" by many because of this.

I had the pleasure of watching him live in concert at the 'Miss Tourism Harare" finals at 7 Arts theatre a couple of weeksa go and waht i witnessed was beyond measure. I mean how can you judge how good an artist someone is, without looking at his following? Impossible right?. I say following, because, i experienced first hand how crazy people go when they see him. While the audience was being addressed by some Government dignotary, Winky D walked in flagged by two if not three big muscular guards, whn the crowd saw him, they started yelling, "big man" "ma Niiinja"- both names have become synonymus with the musician. The Government man got so irritated that he failed to even conatin his anger at how such a dread locked musician could eb more liked and popular thatn him.
Winky D on stage

Miss Kaira during the show checking her deuces

Winky D was the last perfomer at the show and i tell you, the whole crowd was constantly yelling for him,each time the presenter Tinashe something came on.

Finally the Winky took to the stage, I was suprised bacause i had never seen him, he is skinny, hes of small stature but wow the voice that comes out of that man!

 I was blown away. As soon as he was on stage, he mesmerises you, he takes control of the stage, he is captivating. You cant take your eyes off him! I only knew one song by him, but that didnt matter because all his songs are interestingly funny.He is the kind of artist that owns the stage and will keep you entertained during the whole perfomance. At the end of the night i realised what the fuss about this "Big Man" was about. I reembered reading an article a few months back that said Winky D had stolen the show from Sean Paul and Akon when he had shared the stage with them back in August.

For now i can safely say, Winky D is one of the best acts to emerge out of Zimbabwe in the psst decade and his song "Musarova Big Man" is the song of the year 2010. An dto quote the man himself, Winky said on that night, " Musarova Big Man is the biggest song of 2010, who no like it, run go hell"

Signing out for now Peace and Love :-)

Thursday, December 23, 2010

My Workmates and I

Gerry acting like Rick Ross flanked by 2 beauties LOL

Munro wanst trying to have fun, so we brought the fun to him

pepe and Gerry

Rue, me and Ade

yes we were trying to enjoy but well it wasnt easy

Our own Ciara, yeah she ws dancing getting down

No way where we leaving our office mascot out of the pix. (the black teddy) scary huh?

why Munro tryna work when we all enjoying!

Gerry trying to be Rick ross (the boss) flanked by 2 chicks

Tuesday, December 21, 2010

As Christmas draws near, I would like to take this opportunity to wish you all a Blessed Christmas and a Happy and Prosperous 2011.
Remember Christmas is a time of sharing and giving, donot only give material things, but also give more of yourself, your time and your Love.
Thanks to all that have supported me and to my family and friends, I love you all and Keep Keeping up with mspeelicious in 2011.

peace, love and happiness :-))

Tuesday, December 14, 2010

Single vs Married and Friendships

I went to a Marriage Seminar last night ( yes i am single, but i wanted to know what the other camp is talking about).
It was really enlightening so to speak. At least for about 2 hours i got to see what the enemy is up to, and by enemy i mean the married ones, no Subliminal there).The speaker at the seminar mainly pondered on the importance of a married person to have married friends also and not spend time with single people, as they have different goals and ambitions. ( yeah apparently we singles do not aspire to be anything important, we dream of having sex with a random strangers in the parking lot of a night club!) Whatever crap that was. Anyway it seems most of the women were agreeing to this nonsense, and only a few were murmuring in the background. The talk was going on ok, but it got personal when the speaker referred to us by the B word, when someone asked why single women dress slutty, and are going after their Husbands.

I mean seriously the nerve of these people? So i realised, we belong to two different camps, we are sworn enemies (funny how that sounds like the Iraq war Americans vs the Arabs). We have different goals and ambitions. Yes i said it, Most single people were out last night getting pissy drunk, dancing on tables in bars, mayeb even stripping while the married ones were meeting to discuss how to keep that single girl away from their husband. I wonder where is the husband in this scenario? Guess what half the time he is waiting in line at the "Titties-Lounge" to see some random girl shake it while the wives are busy plotting instead of being at home with their husbands. But by no means is this true for everyone though, people are different.

The married couples get to have couples dinners,couples holidays or have family time, with their husbands and kids, and other married couples. The singles get to go clubbing, party after party. Oh and lets not forget that they get to do that dancing on table tops and have sex with anyone they want to. So a single person shouldn't be friends with someone whose married as they are a bad influence (according to the seminar-man this isn't my opinion). So if your friends takes that leap to the other side, you should then cut all ties with them? If you are in a committed relationship or are married, should you neglect your single friends,? And definitely dont take them on holiday with your family and your other married friends.

I spoke to a few married friends and here's their 2 cents:

SINGLES HAVE MORE FUN: OK, so apparently single people have no inhibitions, they will just let lose and have fun,so having them around will remind you of what you are missing.

MARRIED MEN WONDER: men will never stop looking, so having a single friend around opens the door to 'The world of possibilities"

REFLECTIONS: so having your single friends around will allow you to relive your slutty days (remember college, drunk, threesomes etc)

LOOSE MORALS: It seems most married women think their singkle friends have loose morals, in other words they sleep around ( I am sure before you became Mrs X you used to sleep around too)

So many opinions came up, but at the end of it all,do we agree that singles should be friends with singles only and vice versa? What do you think?

Monday, December 6, 2010

Beauty isnt everything

I guess what they say is true,'Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder' . I have seen the most beautiful women get cheated on by men. For example I am sure no one can forget the Halle Berry- Eric Bennet issue back in the day. Most people, me included were baffled,'How can someone cheat on Halle Berry?" she was and probably still is one of the hottest women ever! ( i still have visions of her in Swordfish).

SO BEAUTY WONT KEEP A MAN? We need to give men credit really, we always thought they were shallow. (seriously we did), because we thought the pretty girls can have any man they want. NOT SO apparently. leads me to another example. Eva Longoria and Tony Parker. Most men i know (my boyfriend included) have at some point fantasised about being with "Gabby'. So what in GOD"S name led Mr ball player to cheat?.

TV vs REALITY- We all most likely fall in to the trap of thinking what we see on TV is real, the 'Gabby' on desperate housewives, is obviously not 'Eva'. We are all delusional when we see these characters on TV and naturally assume these women are like the characters they play. This also applies to us commoners. Who we portray to the outside world may not be who we are at home. Some men are saints to the public, but at home are monsters to their partners.

MEN ARE JUST DOGS- I know some women will beg to differ and say, men will be men, meaning they will cheat either way. I don't know if this is fair because, there are some really good men out there. Research shows that more than 50% of women have cheated on their spouses at one point. So its unfair to brand all men dogs, since more an more women are cheating also.

But still if its in men's nature to cheat, why is it some of them will cheat on our Halle-Type with an "Ugly-Duckling". is it about the sex?

Still some women argue that even if you give a man all that he wants (sexually thus) he will still cheat. Are we saying Ugly women over compensate for their unfair looks being more loving, caring and adventurous in bed? I think so, I have seen how vain a beautiful woman can be. Most beautiful chicks are Bitches, they will behave how ever they want and in most cases get away with it. They don't care much about trying to keep a man, besides i am sure a pretty girl came up with the saying, "MEN ARE LIKE BUSES,IF YOU MISS ONE YOU WILL GET ANOTHER".

A man may be attracted to beauty but that surely wont keep him, he will want a woman that is grounded, down to earth, humble, and is willing to treat him like king. I guess that's why most single women are beautiful, Intelligent and Independent, because they are not willing to conform to a mans standards.So beauty is important if its also within right? I mean i guess it has to, because if there is no hope for beautiful woman like, Lauren London who Lil Wayne cheated on with Nivea (who is more on the ugly side)then what of the rest of us?
Maybe that's a bad example because Lil Wayne is just Weezy! ( hes a serial cheater/fucker/what ever you want to call him) - after singing his song, where he says he wants to F?ck every model,actress etc in the world i guess the guy is on a mission.

THE BEHOLDER- in this case who is the beholder? the men you are with. I f he doesn't see you as beautiful, then in his eyes you are not beautiful. The value of ones beauty should be seen by the ones shes with not the outside world.

N.B that's not saying some ugly as fuck chicks are also bitches (O_o)

Monday, November 29, 2010

Good hair

Good HairWell I have showed you really bad hair. now i will show you real good weaves and extentions as well as lace wigs.

When hair goes wrong

Hair to women is what air is to every living being. we cant survive without our hair. all black women around the world thank the maker of weaves, without a good weave we wouldnt look the way we do, and also thanks to Lacefronts, when done properly, we look awesome but when badly done, now thats a whole sad story. below see pictures of bad hair on celebrities;

Friday, November 26, 2010

N.E.R.D Appreciation 2

the sleeve to this #NOTHING masterpiece by N.E.R.D

N.E.R.D Appreciation

showing my appreciation for N.E.R.D i love these guys. # In search of #Fly or Die #Seeing Sounds and #Nothing  are all dope albums!

Thursday, November 25, 2010

Interracial Dating

Why do people make funny comments when they see a black women with a white man, or vice versa? is there anything wrong with a black woman dating a white man? Should oen be forced to date a black man because of fear of castigation? The weird part about it all is that black people are the ones that are more judgemental. In most cases they put labels on black woman  who date white man. I have actually seen that black people are more racist than white people, when it comes to interracial dating.

I personally do not have a problem with interracial dating as long as someone is happy. I am black and have dated white men and i always got these weird and funny looks and snare every time we went out and these mainly came from other black women. Why are women so spiteful, is it because they are jealous of their 'sister" or is it they are really disgusted? Or is it that deep-down these women would wish to date white men too, but maybe none has ever approached them? I wonder.

Should ones relationship options be limited to their race? or should one cross all barriers to find what makes them happy. Over the years most black women have crossed the race barrier and have been dating other race men, and most will say its bacause they got tired of black-man drama, i.e. dealing with baby mamas, their gangsta ish, failure to fully commit and be faithful and so forth. Black men on the other hand have been dating away from their race,running away from black-women drama also, and apparently some have said white women are docile compared to black women???

But really at the end of it all, shouldn't one's choice of a dating partner be based on compatibility and emotions not on their race, or your past experiences with other people of that race.

Monday, November 22, 2010

Seeing Right Through me?

I was listening to Nicki Minaj's "Right Through Me" the other day. The song just took me back to the day of innocence were people used to be loyal in relationships. Where women were honest with their men. Back then, mean would depend on their women to tell them the truth,A guy would look at his women and could be able to tell whether she was telling the truth or was lying. How i long for those days.

Its weird how nowadays couples cant even trust each other, and theres so much infidelity and divorce rates are increasing dailiy.How can you really trust soemone and believe that they wont cheat on you? Its harder with how diverse the family structures have become and how women scream 'independence",'equal rights" at everything. How can one safely say they can see right through their partners lies and deceit? Is it possible that this kind of love still exsists? Somewhere out there are there couples that are confident that they really know their partner or their spouse?

As a woman i long for a man whom i truly trust and have confidence in, and vice versa, i would also want my partner to have faith in me. which leads me to this question, "How do you earn someones trust?". I guess trust is earned over time. And by the same measure you give, so shall you receive in return. Honesty will inturn mean you will reap honesty.

Wednesday, November 17, 2010

Wife is TV, Girlfriend is a Mobile

Wife is like a TV VS Girlfriend is like a MOBILE

At home u watch TV, but when u go out u take ur MOBILE

No money, u sell the TV, got money u change ur MOBILE

Sometimes u enjoy TV, but most of the time u play with ur MOBILE

TV is free for life, but for the MOBILE, if you don't pay, the services will be terminated

TV is big, bulky and most of the time old!
But the MOBILE is cute, slim, curvy and very portable

Operational costs for TV is often acceptable, but for the MOBILE it is often high and demanding

TV has a remote, MOBILE doesn't

Most importantly, MOBILE is a two-way communication (u talk and listen),but with the TV you MUST only listen (whether you want to or not)

Last but not least! TVs don't have viruses, but Mobiles often do

Saturday, November 13, 2010

How to Succeed......

I loved that old song that went, " do you know where you're to, do you like the things that life is showing you, what are you hoping for?" The lyrics spoke to me as a young girl. I had dreams and i had a vivid picture of where i wanted to be. i had dreams of making it big and being succesful. Decades later i find myself revisiting my past and trying to figure out who i really am, and where i am going to.

As i grew older i realised to be succesful, one has to first of all know where there are going to, you have to have a life plan or map. plot your road and follow that road until you reach your goal. Always make provisions for deteurs along the way but make sure to follow the path. We all hope to make it to the end of the road, and eventually become whom we dreamt of becoming.

The road to success involves hard work. Sometimes you find yourself working late, not going out on a saturday night with your friends to do some work.You invest more than 100% of yourself and you will get to a point where you feel like giving up when the results take long to come by but most often when you're about to give up, it means you are almost at the finish line.

People talk about luck and fate , but i dont believe in this, i believe in hard work and reapplying yourself and exerting as much effort as you can. Also never be afraid to ask for help from your friends or family. Keep dreaming big beacuse Without a vision you perish. A vision leads to dreams, which in turn leads to goals.

Your success will be measured by your progress against your set goals, or by how far you have gone down the road path you made. It will not be measured by material things or by others. you alone shall determine whether you are a success or not.So go ahead and be all that you can be, dare to dream and keep on pressing until you reach your mark.

:-) peace and Love

Friday, November 12, 2010

Playing Hard to get

Playing hard to get
Women play hard to get all the time, we all know that, but the question is, How hard is hard enough. Do women take it so far sometimes that men eventually lose interest in them? A male friend said something interesting today, he said if a girl takes it too far (the playing hard to get) he quickly loses interest but he will still persue her, but only to ’screw’ her and dumb her! Mmmmm huh?

Whats with all these games that people play in the dating game? Women my advise “Dont play hard to get, but Be hard to get” and men if you really into her you will continus persuing her.

Is he/ She into me or just being a friend?

How do you know if a guy is really into you? This has always puzzled me, i cant figure men out. They do send out mixed signals at times. If hes calling you constantly, but has never asked you out on a date, is he into you but shy? or maybe he is just being a friend? The same is also true for women, sometimes you are just being nice to a guy and he gets the wrong idea. They probably assume you are flirting with them when you are just being polite.

So it got me wondering, why cant someone just write a rule book on these things. I just want to know if this guy is being my friend or is just leading me on. I bet a lot of women have felt the pressure of trying to figure out where they stand with a particular guy. Other than a rule book the best way to know is if you ask, if he/she intends to take the friendship any further. There is really no harm in asking and knowing where you stand with someone, instead of having them string you along under false assumptions.

Thursday, November 11, 2010

Ladies:When to have Sex in a relationship

Lately it seems most women are rushing into physical relationships with men they hardly know.Whats the rush? its not like he's going anywhere...oh unless if he does leave, then i guess he wasnt the ONE to begin with.The first date is an icebreaker, never kiss on the first date, i mean do you even have any idea where his lips have been? so why would you want that toungue in your mouth? Ladies jjst take your time to get to know him first as a person, before you let any of your biological parts meet. Once you give him the prize (you cherry) why is he going to hang around? If he is a good man, trust me ladies he will wait. It is wise to only consumate your relationship when you know he's for keeps.

Nowadays women dont have respect for their bodies, its sacred, so why go around sharing it with any Tom,Dick and Jerry, just beacause he bought you dinner? which you can afford to buy yourself anyway. If you love yourself, you will love your body and respect it enough not to just have it used, abused and overused by any random man. Take your time to meet the right man, who will respect you, Love you and then you can give all of you, including your body....

#Thatsall :-))

Friday, October 29, 2010

How to get your man to open up in a relationship

How To Get Your Boyfriend To Open Up In Your Relationship

One thing male bloggers brings to the table that’s different from regular men in society is we are vocal about our feelings and opinions about sex, dating and relationships. Most men just don’t talk much. I don’t get it. There are men who just don’t believe in talking to other men, but that has nothing to do with their girlfriend or wife. Those men just don’t talk to anyone. If you don’t use your abilities, you will lose them. I’m sure that we would all like to believe that if we had to speak up we could. But you will forget how, if you never practice. It’s doesn’t matter if your boyfriend never likes talking about your relationship; past, present or future. He still has to.

First important step to getting him to open up is avoiding those phrases that make him shut down or lie through their teeth. I shouldn’t have to tell you, but the phrase, “We need to talk,” is the worst thing you can say to a man. He just climbs into a shell and refuses to come out. Do not say this to him before or after sex. This is when men get extremely sexually frustrated or they are liable to lie straight through their teeth. I, Personally, do not have relationship conversation while riding in a car. There’s something about not being able to get away that just causes me to become irritable.

Figure out how your boyfriend communicates and learns. People communicate and learn differently, through visuals, communication, and reading. (Keep in mind, this is not about getting your boyfriend to learn how to express himself in the way that you think a man should. You just want him to express himself.) If your boyfriend is not good at talking, it might be a good idea to write him a letter. Sometimes, watching a movie helps me realize a flaw in my relationship or something that I may be doing wrong. Try different mediums of communicating.

Do a self assessment of yourself. A lot of times men feel that whatever they say will inevitably lead to an argument or him being attacked. If he typically says things like, “Don’t scream at me” replying, “I’m not screaming at you,” is counterproductive. And, if you usually open up discussions about an issue you have with him by asking him about your relationship, realize that you’re never going to get him to open up about anything.

For example;
Natasha: What do you think about our sex life?
Joe: I think it’s fine. I mean, we both have hectic schedules so it’s not as much as it used to be.
Natasha: I know. That’s what I was thinking. Why are you always so tired that you can’t make love to me?
Joe: [mumbles to himself, “Not this again”]

However, be sure not to coddle or pacify your boyfriend. If you treat your baby like a baby, he will behave like a baby. Talk to him directly in an adult voice. Use his name and not pet names. If he gets irritable and refuses to communicate like an adult, stop trying and let him talk to you when he’s ready to act like an adult. Don’t be super nice, though. It will come across as though you want something, and men just get suspicious when our lady is being too nice.

To recap, please be nice to him. It’s not every day that you are going to get a man to open up to you about his feelings or about how he feels about your relationship. Make sure the reason you are not able to have this conversation is not because you aren’t in a position to. And lastly, try communicating on his medium of choice. As he becomes more comfortable in his area, he will start to be open to talking in your area. Open and healthy communication is the key to a great relationship. Seek it out and never refuse to keep trying...

Written by Dr J. for Bitchielife